Friday, September 25, 2015
Tuesday, May 05, 2015
what is India's fascination with the piss.
Morarji Desai, Ex Prime Minister, drank pee to cure himself of all ailments. LINK
Previously, Ajit Pawar, from Nationalist Congress Party, the then irrigation minister, responded to a question with an angry "if the dam doesnt have water, should I pee" LINK
Now Nitin Gadkari, proudly proclaims that the plants in his garden are watered by his pee.
While there is nothing wrong I read with Morarji Desai's pee drinking fetish. There are many in our country who like to be peed on, it is a fetish, and it is called "golden showers", well if it works for the couple, good for them.
There is something deeply antisocial about Ajit Pawar and Nitin Gadkari. I have a problem with their Pee comments. The issue with Ajit Pawar's pee is that the dam he was commenting about, was to help the poor with Irrigation, human consumption..
The issue with Nitin Gadkari's Pee advice, in which he proudly proclaims that he Leads By Example is that it is not he who waters the plants. He gets his Gardener to carry his pee to the plants. LINK
Both belong to different parties, but pee binds them together. both dictate what others should do with their pee, while their business is only to pee and offer free pee advice.
Maybe they would be irate after reading this status update of mine. may be their bhakts will be angry too...
Well, that's alright... it is always better to be pissed off, than to be pissed on!
Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Saturday, March 14, 2015
Saturday, March 07, 2015
Monday, March 02, 2015
Watch this film and you will agree with me that Bhumi Pednekar deserves every award. Ayushman is kiss-worthy. Sheeba, as the nasty Bua is another star worthy of every award. This film may not have ‘london thumakda” moments, like in Queen. But makes a strong case for valuing self worth just as Queen does. Though no one can match a kangana doing a Rani in Queen, Bhumi takes the character of Sandhya to heights of brilliance. This is the kind of performance that could easily make a classroom study for young actors who wish to learn about the nuances of acting. She is too good.
DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR, WATCH THIS MASTERPIECE.
Wednesday, January 21, 2015
Just out of the screening of Crazy Cukkad Family. Cinema is an instrument of change. This small film in the midst of mega budget multicrore films manages to leave an indelible mark in the mind of the viewer.
It is remarkable to note that a film that is comically themed on human greed, very substantially makes a point about human nature and human need of love. This is the first film I have seen besides my own - Amen, that shows a homosexual couple in a happily-ever-after moment. The film makes a makes a poignant point without no taste of preachiness about acceptance of a Gay Couple and that of a cross dressing straight man. The cherry on the cake is a scene where a gay marriage is shown alongside a heterosexual marriage with no shoo-sha or humour.
In a sharp contrast it doesn't show gay people as cheaters or losers or diseased or specially gifted. The characters are shown at par with the heterosexual counterparts, as greedy and selfish and as human as everyone else in the ensemble cast. It normalises and equalises same sex relationships.
This film portrays that in a greedy dysfunctional crazy and abnormal family too, the most normal thing is being gay. It is not an 'issue' or a 'cause', the character is just gay. As simple as it reads here. In a nation where Bollywood is a religion, crazy cukkad family would definitely be placed on the pedestal for the healthy depiction of queer content.
If you are LGBT especially, do yourself a favour - watch this film.
Tuesday, December 23, 2014
Monday, November 03, 2014
One of those nights where after nursing the wounds of the world, I find time to feel my own.
Sometimes, one does go through gloomy phases in life when you feel lonely in a world that you are way too known. Well, its a popular perception that people who are known are surrounded by people all the while and are lucky in matters of lust and love. Well, it is a myth. Most often the inverse is true.
I'm in no haste in falling in love or anything, (one mistake in haste is a good lesson) but I do feel the pang of lying alone under the moonlit sky. I do feel that one day, I find someone to share this space with.
Friday, October 31, 2014
The Bangalore Case where the husband cheated on the wife with another man raises a few eye brows and many questions
1) I empathize with the wife, I really do, but is slapping 377 on the husband justified?
2) Would we have slapped 377 on this guy if the guy cheated on his wife with another woman and the wife caught them in 'unnatural acts'...as per the legal parlance?
3) Would the trauma the wife suffered be any less or any different if the 'woh' was a woman.
4) The media revealed the name of the employer and other details which makes it easy to identify the husband. Would the case be any less serious if the husband worked at the barber shop and not an IT firm? Would they have dared to do the same if it was the wife who was the culprit?
5) We take a moral high ground when it comes to cheating on your partner, cross your hearts and tell me, haven't you ever cheated?
6) It takes me ages to argue with the police and get a simple FIR for stalking a woman registered. Who are these lovely policemen who register a 377 on a infidelity case?
7)I stand for equal rights. If the wife feels cheated - grant her divorce. If the husband caused mental trauma - demand alimony. But slapping 377, isnt it stretching this too far with malicious intent?
8) Also the journalism stoops to a new low here. Why reveal the identity of the man?
I received a string of Whatsapp messages from a friend who championed women rights and thought the man deserved no sympathy because he 'cheated'. He stopped sending me messages when I asked him "weren't you in a relationship with someone when you were giving me a blowjob some years back? "
We are a homophobic and hypocritical society. Hence proved.
Thursday, October 30, 2014
How does one feel when a part of your body stands in front of you live and alive in flesh and blood?
Martin's play - the tricky part, trickles down your spine leaving chill and thrill down your spine at the same time. It is a play that has four characters on stage - a stool, a book, a photograph and Martin.
So human his play is that you dissolve in it completely.
While Martin inspires the world and people call it 'courage' , to me it is his way of therapy and finding himself by connecting the dots of the past and the present is what is most inspiring.
Post the play, martin and I took questions from the audience. Modesty has never been my nature, so while you make your judgments allow me my moments of pride. It was happy to note from the counsellors present in the audience, that some survivors read my posts and look up to me. While I scare some people by holding a mirror to their past that they would rather not address, I also am seen as the level , the benchmark of where people want to reach in dealing with their abuse. I can tell you guys and girls and trans persons that we all set our own benchmarks. There are levels that you may reach that I aspire to be. Every case of abuse and every method of dealing with it is as diverse as chalk and cheese though it looks very similar in some angles. Martin's life or mine is a story, just a story that resonates with your life. Parts of it is true to yours, but a part of it is also unique. The paths you discover to deal with it, and rise from it will also be unique and independent to your life. Be the god of your story. Write your own happy sad story with a happiness in continuum.
I have been planning something with a friend I am very fond of- Sapna Moti Bhavnani since quite sometime now. Rather to put it correctly we have been planning something together. But I should confess, i haven't found the courage to write down my piece completely. There are phases when I lose my train of thought. Now I will. Martin inspires me to connect the dots of my past and present.
Do yourself a favor - watch The Tricky Part. It is empowering, but more importantly, its theapeautic.
"I know what has happened. I know what you have done. I know you repent. I want you to know, no matter what has happened, whatever you have done or not done - I will not judge you. I will stand by you through this. I will love you. I dont want you to believe in me. I want you to believe in yourself. I want you to see yourself from my eyes, for you will see then that you are without sin"
Context : as a young girl she was forced to lure boys and girls her age then and get them to "play"with her abuser. It has taken her 8 years of talking-it-out to stop feeling guilty. In her late 30s now, she has put her past in her past. She is writing her memoir about her interactions with me. Which she intends to publish someday when she decides to go completely public about her life. :)
Happy I be.
*some primary identifiers have been changed to protect the identity of the survivor*